Can We Leave Situationships in 2024?
Please, I'm BEGGING you!
In the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, we've somehow landed in a gray area I like to call "situationships." You're not just friends, you're not really a couple, but you're something. It's confusing, exhausting, and if I'm being brutally honest, a complete waste of time.
Why are we so afraid of defining what we want? And why, for the love of all things romantic, do we continue to entertain relationships that are half-baked at best? Let me be clear: I want situationships GONE. Banished. Left behind with all the other bad decisions of 2024.
A situationship is the limbo of the dating world. It’s texting "good morning" but never planning a real date. It’s acting like a couple but never calling each other boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s catching feelings for someone who claims they're "not ready for a relationship" while still expecting your loyalty and emotional labor. It’s the emotional equivalent of walking a tightrope blindfolded—unsure if the next step leads to solid ground or a catastrophic fall. But here’s the kicker: most of us know we’re in one. And yet, we stay.
Why you ask?
The fear of being alone: Situationships offer just enough attention to keep us from feeling lonely but not enough commitment to feel secure. It’s like emotional breadcrumbs—just enough to keep us coming back for more.
The illusion of potential: We tell ourselves, Maybe it’ll turn into something real. Maybe they just need time. Spoiler alert: if they wanted to commit, they would.
Modern dating culture: Apps have turned dating into a buffet. Why settle for one dish when you can sample everything? Situationships thrive in this swipe-right world, where commitment feels like a lost art.
Fear of vulnerability: Let’s face it: defining a relationship means putting yourself out there. It means saying, “This is what I want. Do you want it too?” And nothing’s scarier than the possibility of hearing “no.”
They’re draining. They take up space in our hearts and minds that could be better spent on real relationships—or better yet, on ourselves. A situationship is like a half-written novel you keep revisiting, hoping for a satisfying ending, only to realize the author (or in this case, the other person) has no intention of finishing the story. They keep us stuck, second-guessing our worth and our boundaries. They make us question whether we’re asking for too much when all we really want is the bare minimum: clarity, effort, and respect.
In 2025, I’m declaring a hard pass on ambiguity. It’s the year of asking for what we want—and walking away when we don’t get it. Let’s commit to committing—to people who value us, to relationships that make us feel secure, and most importantly, to ourselves. Because the truth is, love isn’t supposed to be complicated. Sure, relationships take work, but the foundation should be simple: mutual respect, genuine effort, and a shared vision of what you’re building together.
So, can we agree to leave situationships behind? To stop settling for “almost” and start demanding “all in”?
With REAL love,
Victoria (your fake Carrie Bradshaw)
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I agree with you, I just left my situationship in 2024, and it was the best, I feel free and more
Committed to myself. Stop accepting the half of the things when you can have it all!!
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