I cant lie, my thought while reading was: why keep choosing someone who isn't perfect for you? I know it's cliche, but there are billions of people, I think at least one must be what are we looking for. At the same time, I'm wondering: even with billions of people, why do we still choose those who "need to be fixed"?is this like a magnet to make us feel useful?
Sometimes, we’re not just drawn to the person—we’re drawn to the role we play in their life. Being the one who “fixes” them can make us feel needed, important, even special. It can create the illusion that if we help them heal, they’ll love us more, stay longer, or finally become the version of themselves we’ve been waiting for. But love isn’t about proving your worth by saving someone. If a relationship makes you feel like you have to earn love through emotional labor, it’s not love—it’s a project. And you deserve more than that. You deserve someone who’s already capable of loving you fully, without needing to be “fixed” first.❤️
I cant lie, my thought while reading was: why keep choosing someone who isn't perfect for you? I know it's cliche, but there are billions of people, I think at least one must be what are we looking for. At the same time, I'm wondering: even with billions of people, why do we still choose those who "need to be fixed"?is this like a magnet to make us feel useful?
Sometimes, we’re not just drawn to the person—we’re drawn to the role we play in their life. Being the one who “fixes” them can make us feel needed, important, even special. It can create the illusion that if we help them heal, they’ll love us more, stay longer, or finally become the version of themselves we’ve been waiting for. But love isn’t about proving your worth by saving someone. If a relationship makes you feel like you have to earn love through emotional labor, it’s not love—it’s a project. And you deserve more than that. You deserve someone who’s already capable of loving you fully, without needing to be “fixed” first.❤️